It was never about the job.
That’s what I answer when people ask my why I quit.
Everyone has aspects of their work they don’t like – for me it was spreadsheets, calendar planning, and meetings that could have been emails. Ugh.
Oh, I also hated the politics, bullying and compromising my values, but you already know that part of the story.
It was never about the job and my guess is that the reason you are so unhappy isn’t about the job either — it’s what the job represents, and who you’ve become because of it.
Does this sound familiar?
You started off in your role excited to start a new chapter in your life. You were ready for new challenges, learning and making an impact.
After a few years things started to get stale. You were running on the 9-to-5 hamster wheel and dreading the alarm clock every morning. There was no room for growth, creativity or doing anything outside of the status quo.
Things got worse – you got buried in busy work, felt silenced or invisible at decision making time, and bullied by “know-it-all leaders” who didn’t know the first thing about leadership.
That’s when it started to happen. That stirring down in the pit of your stomach. The one that was signalling to you – “um, yeah, this sucks. We need to blow this pop stand”.
But you didn’t listen.
You started bringing that negativity home to your family. Irritable, frustrated, angry, impatient. You started bitching and complaining during breaks at work just to let off a bit of steam.
You stopped speaking up for what was right because you knew it was a waste of time. You stopped smiling, laughing and having fun because it was “unprofessional”.
It’s not about the job, it’s what the job has made you become.
A hollowed out version of yourself. A zombie, a robotic and apathetic version of someone who once was full of life and passion for the work.
But that’s not the real reason you’re frustrated, angry, and fed up.
You let them compromise your identity.
You let them squash your personality.
You let them snuff your spark and take the joy out of work.
You made them the priority over your family, health, and happiness.
Can you relate?
Then that’s one helluva reason to, as Jordan Peele says, “GET OUT”.